Daring & Mighty Love

Stop looking for your soul mate!!

That's the secret!

Take the focus off the external search and go inward.

You have got to prepare yourself by doing the inner work - healing your heart so that you may open it to receive in your match.

Your man will appear when you are ready and he will likely turn up in a way that you could never have predicted.

I get asked so often by women what I think about various dating platforms - Tinder? Match? Single Events? Bumble? Online? Offline?

I can't answer that question.

The better question is, "How can I open my heart so that I am a magnet for him to find me?"

Now we're talking!

Getting to know and love yourself is the way to fast track him finding you.

When you are filled up with so much self trust, compassion, confidence, understanding and love then you will attract in someone that has that for themselves. You will individually be overflowing with love so there will be more than enough to share. There will be an equality to the sharing. Neither party will be lacking, deficient or starved - looking to the other to be filled up. Your individual fulfilment will attract you to each-other.

If you desire a committed, exclusive, emotionally connected, profoundly loving relationship with someone else then you have got to have all of that with yourself first.

When you are so switched on and turned on inside, you will be a magnet for your match.

The platform or event or 'way' to meet him becomes irrelevant. The Universe will steer you to the action you need to take and that could be anything from feeling inspired to walk a different route to work (thereby bumping in to him on the street!) or it could be a kick up the bum at the perfect time from a friend insisting you try a new dating app…then voila, he is the first man to connect with you and it's ease and flow from there.

Love is magical! Invite in the mystery and allow yourself to expand into the miracles available to you once your heart is open.

Be 'the one' for you first. Focus on that. The rest will follow.

I remember when I feared that meeting a man would mean the end of freedom and adventure in my life (that was a huge block to love for me) until I realised that my soul mate relationship would be an adventure and the unconditional love we would share would mean that we would allow each-other to adventure separately as well as together.

I recently travelled to Mexico for a women's retreat. What an adventure on all levels! My man was so supportive because he loves me even more to witness me live my life fully in my truth.

Our journey of intimacy together is a daily adventure too. We are committed to healing any blocks to love that we have - together. Now that 'aint for the faint of heart!

With him I am free to be me - that is ultimate freedom.

To attract in a man with whom I could create an experience of freedom and adventure required me to prepare myself first.

To feel free to be me had to be a very intimate and personal experience first before I could share that with someone else.

Once upon a time I didn't know who I was and I certainly didn't love, accept and appreciate myself. So, how could I expect someone else to? The irony is that I feared I would lose myself to a man but I didn't even know myself to know what I was losing!

Committing to the deep inner work that will guide you home to a profound sense of self is something you can never lose.

This healing work allows you to open your heart to yourself. With an open heart you can then be open to others in a healthy way. Your open heart allows your soul mate to find you and he wants nothing more than for you to be the most fully expressed, happy and fulfilled you so he will be your biggest support team. He will not block you to adventure and freedom in your life. He will help you to have more! And your life together will be an enormous adventure if that's what you desire. Together you get to define your relationship and create what feels good for you both - together and individually.

To quote 'When Harry Met Sally' - "You know like you know about a good melon!"

You just 'know'.

I always loved that idea but it was just that - an idea. I didn't think it was possible for me to have that Hollywood moment.

In retrospect I can see how I came to create this experience for myself (note the importance of those specific words please).

I had to learn to how to heal my heart and then how to open my heart.

With a healed and open heart it was easy for me to 'know' very quickly whether someone was right for me or not. When I was dating I didn't have to endure the anxiety and agony of wondering if 'he was the one'. With an open heart, I knew. So when 'the one' turned up it was like, "Oh! Of-course! There you are!" It was so bleeding obvious!

I love my man's heart. Sure, I love his mind and body but that is almost superficial to the love I have for his soul. Our soul's know each-other.

The route to opening up your energy to attracting in your soul mate is learning how to open your heart.

That is energetic, healing work. It is deeply transformational work. And it is available for you.

The work starts with a decision. All change is ignited by intention. You gotta start there.

Here's what I know. Physical attraction lasts a nano-second in the whole scheme of things. So, if you don't have a mental and emotional connection with someone, there just isn't any longevity.

If you have the physical attraction plus mental attraction then your interest in someone has a slightly longer life-span.

The real juice is emotional attraction. When we feel able to connect emotionally with someone, we are creating intimacy and that's the stuff of fulfilling longevity.

To have a healthy emotional connection with someone else requires you to have a healthy emotional connection with yourself first. I am not saying you need to have perfected emotional mastery but you do need to have a solid, trusting, committed and 'best friend like' emotional connection with yourself.

When you have intimacy with yourself you can create intimacy with someone else.

Intimacy is fulfilling and that lasts because it allows two committed people to journey together as their souls evolve, diving deeper and deeper into the discovery of each-other. That is an adventure of a lifetime!

I have a history of relationships that were full of drama and incredibly painful as a result because we were two emotionally unhealed people essentially coming together to be healed. There was purpose to the relationships (everything has a reason) and some healing did occur but we created additional wounds in the process because we hadn't done the work individually to heal. We hadn't journeyed alone, into the depths of our individual experiences of shame, hurt and abandonment to heal our hearts.

Let me re-iterate, you do not need to be perfect for your soul mate to find you. You do need to do the human work to clear the path for him to come in so that you can continue the journey of healing and expansion together.

You deserve a relationship that is a trusting, open and loving experience. First, you need to have a trusting, open, loving experience of yourself.

Self-Love is the path that will clear the way for your 'one' to come in and and then life long lasting intimacy is pretty much guaranteed!

I believe everything happens at the right time. As humans, we forget our Spiritual truth and that we can trust that life is designed to support us (even though it doesn't always feel like that).

I also believe it’s imperative that we know ourselves before sharing ourselves with someone.

Taking the time to know and love yourself as an independent, confident, self sufficient and self fulfilled person is so important.

I have experienced terribly painful relationships where we both looked to the other for our fulfilment and happiness. That is WAY too much to expect from another person. Talk about pressure!

You are a unique woman. Your journey, life experiences, healing and transformation is unique to you. Your time frame and your process is uniquely yours. There’s no ‘right’ time for anything. Your ‘right’ life partner will turn up at exactly the ‘right’ time for you and once you meet each-other, you will just ‘know’ this to be true. It will become clear why you couldn’t have met sooner - likely, you simply were not ready. You had not done the work to claim yourself fully so that you could bring your most fulfilled self to the equation.

Your soul mate will come into your life when you have prepared yourself fully and that is what this programme is all about.

Preparation is not just the key to meeting him. It’s the key to speeding up the process!

The more connected you are to yourself, the more healed and open your heart, the less time will be wasted dating the wrong men (or at least, you will know more quickly whether a man is right for you or not so you can move swiftly on to being available for your soul mate to find you).