Day 6 of the Daring & Mighty Action Plan to take you from Head to Heart, Health & Happiness…..

All of the tools I have been listing over the past few day, no matter how simple, do take persistence and determined effort. You need to build new habits into your daily routine and that takes practice. If you want to create change, get out of your head and start to feel better, you have to make a decision to do things differently and then DO it. Today’s tool is no different.

I learned an amazing tool from the Hoffman Process. It’s all about recognising that you have 4 aspects to yourself and the importance of checking in with each one. Our four aspects of self are:

Intellectual Self / Head

Physical Self / Body

Emotional Self / Inner Child

Spirit Self / True Self

No doubt you are familiar with the mind/body/spirit concept. Hoffman adds a fourth element, that of your emotional self. It makes sense. Your emotional self is your inner child. It expresses all your feelings and emotions through your physical body and can often feel ‘childish’ because so much of the way we deeply feel is determined from a very young age. Those feelings need to be paid attention, in the same way that you would pay attention to your child – with patience, love and understanding.

‘Checking In’ is all about consciously taking notice of what is going on in each aspect of your self. Not just your head. Your Head is only one part of you. There is so much more going on!

When you check-in, you stop and ask your head, body, inner child and spirit what’s going on for them. You then LISTEN to the answers. You pay attention. This is the key. Taking time to do this is a very self loving, self nurturing thing to do and you might be surprised to discover what is REALLY going on for you because so often, what your head is telling you is going on is very far from the truth.

To give you an idea. Your physical self might be telling you that it has a headache – it is trying to get your attention. Your intellect might be screaming that it’s feeling cluttered and confused, that nothing makes sense. Your inner child might be silently feeling vulnerable and scared. No doubt, the confusion and headache are stemming from the insecurity of your needy inner child so giving that part of yourself some reassurance and letting it know that everything will be ok, that it is safe, might really help to relax your intellect and relieve your headache. Your spirit might be feeling unheard and needing to be listened to – after all, our spirit really does know what’s best for us and has all the answers if we would only listen. In fact if we connect in with our spirit regularly, we will know how to sooth and serve the needs of all aspects of self.

There is much learning that can take you deeper into an understanding of this.If you want to read more about the Hoffman Process and the 4 aspects of self, check-out: www.hoffmaninstitute.org/sections/news/articles/path_to_personal_freedom2.html