{LOVE NOTE} How To Deal With Fear

Moving on from last week’s lesson (https://theschoolofself.love/blog/love-note-the-power-of-intention/), you’ve set your intentions. You’ve looked at your life and identified the things you are no-matter-what committed to transforming. You’re ready.

What now?

Well, before you start creating a life you love (exciting, isn’t it?), we need to tackle one thing. The one thing that could get in the way of your dreams, or even stop you from dreaming in the first place.


Fear is a powerful saboteur. It’s the unconscious reason you say “No” to claiming everything you desire.

Let’s start by getting it out of your way.


No, there’s no magic wand to make it disappear (sorry to disappoint). We have to accept that fear is and will always be a very real part of life. Nelson Mandela knew that.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela

Are you ready to triumph over it?

Great! Now consider this:

Fear is a just story.

It is the voice of your subconscious. Your subconscious is the sum of every life experience, every belief and every other voice you have adopted as defining who you are.

I invite you to open to the idea that the stories you are telling yourself – the ones that make you feel scared and stuck – are NOT TRUE. And, they are stopping you from creating a life you will love.

Here’s what you need to do:

Start listening to the conversations you have with yourself. How are you talking to yourself? Is your tone kind and supportive? Is it destructive and pessimistic?

When you look in the mirror, what do you hear?

When you consider going to the gym, what do you say to yourself?

If you imagine yourself in your dream job, what stories are you telling yourself around that?

Notice how this thinking makes you feel and start to witness how it’s sabotaging your deepest desires.

Witness your thoughts as if you are an outsider looking in with compassion, understanding and love. This practice will help you understand where these stories came from and what the truth really is.

With awareness comes choice.

There’s a LOT MORE juice on this topic, which I dive into in this weeks’ Facebook Live. You can watch the replay by clicking below.

I invite you to share your discoveries around fear in the comments on Facebook or by replying to this email. I love to hear from you!

Love you,

Katie xx
Founder of The School of Self Love

P.S. If you are interested to know more about the Self Love Affair Transformational Process and would like to speak to someone at the School of Self Love about how we can support you, click here. When you click on the link, you will be prompted to answer a few questions. Your answers are important as they help us decide which of our team members will be best for you to speak to.


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