Today’s Love Note is a continuation of the current series we are running sharing lessons from our acclaimed transformational process – The Self Love Affair.
In conjunction with this series, our Founder & Head Coach, Katie Phillips, is hosting a LIVE one hour training call every Tuesday at 2pm GMT over in our Private Facebook Group – The Self Love Hub. Please do join us!
If you have missed any previous lessons or video training’s, no fear! – they are all available over on our Blog.
In continuation of The Self Love Affair process, this week we’re getting on with the real work of healing all hurt, fear, injustice and wrongdoing from your past through forgiveness.
We don’t need to know HOW to forgive. The key is surrendering to that power inside us and trusting that it will show us the way.
If you don’t feel ready to forgive, remember that holding onto a grudge does more damage to you than anyone else. You’re the one who feels the pain, the anger, the disappointment – not the person who hurt you.
Are you willing to let go of all that?
All you need to do is set an intention to forgive.
Change your perception
“Forgiveness is a shift in perception that removes a block in me to my awareness of love’s presence.” – A Course in Miracles
Instead of seeing your hardships as injustices, are you willing to consider that they were actually opportunities to grow? Just look at how much you’ve changed from who you used to be! You could even think of those challenges as gifts. They led you here, to this transformational work you’re doing with me right now.
Trace it back to love
Are you willing to stretch your mind to believe that everything people do is an expression of love or a call for love? We’re just not very adept at showing it, and often end up hurting others without meaning to.
Having compassion towards someone’s behaviour is the first step to forgiveness.
Write a letter
Let’s start with forgiving your parents, carers and surrogates.
Choose an incident or pattern as the focus of your forgiveness. Write a letter to your Spirit asking for help to forgive your parents and surrogates.
Write out ALL the emotions connected with that experience. Even if they didn’t mean to hurt you, you’ve still experienced a lot of pain and that needs to be acknowledged and expressed.
See a different side
Now start to imagine what life was like for your parents, carers and surrogates when they were children. What tough stuff did they suffer? Ask your Spirit to help you witness the purity of their Spirits.
Whether your parents are alive or dead, you can ask to connect to their Spirits and offer peace, love and forgiveness. Ask that you also be forgiven if you played a role too.
When you’ve written all you need to express, end with: I forgive you and I set you free. I forgive us both and I set myself free.
Afterwards, burn the letter and know that you are FREE!
Doesn’t it feel wonderful?
If you would like additional help to forgive, there is a fab guided visualisation called ‘Forgiveness’ on my album – ‘My Spirit. My Truth’. Just CLICK HERE to get it.
In the video below, I go much deeper into the subject of forgiveness and take you through how to forgive yourself.
You’re doing a brave thing. I’d love to hear about it, so do share your comments below.
Love you,
Katie xx
Founder of The School of Self Love
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