Welcome to the sixth step to self-love in my 7-part summer series!
How did you get on with committing to 10 things that you could do to love your mind more? What did you do?
We are now going to dive deep into loving your INNER CHILD. The more work I do with women around co-dependency, self-love, self-worth and confidence, the more I believe that the key to SO much healing is creating a relationship with your inner child.
Step 6: Love Your Delightful Inner Child!
When we are aged 0-7, we interpret the world emotionally because our mental faculty hasn’t developed yet.
At the same time, we are in survival mode and our instinct is to copy our carers (usually Mum & Dad) because we intuit that if we are like them, then they will pay us attention and that attention will guarantee us food/water/shelter etc to survive.
We take on our carer’s beliefs, behaviours etc emotionally. There is no rationale.
As an adult, we then find ourselves being operated by that emotional part of us. Our habits of behaviour, our beliefs and emotional responses are controlled by the emotions of a small child (if we are unconscious to what it really going on).
So essentially, most people have a small child running the show in their lives.
A little girl is running your relationships, your business, your finances, your decisions and your emotional responses.
When you can learn to tune into this very real and very special part of yourself, true and deep healing results. And, that forms much of the work that I do with women.
Love yourself enough to develop a compassionate relationship with your inner child. She is desperate for your attention.
I would like to share a couple of paragraphs with you from my book, ‘The Self-Love Affair’:
Self-love requires us to listen to the voice of our inner child. To hear her when she is feeling alone, unloveable, worried, insecure, too much or unsafe. If she knows she is being heard and if we can offer her love and understanding and a space to express her tough feelings, she will feel empowered to also express her joy and playfulness.
From this moment on I invite you to treat yourself as you would a small child – with compassion, understanding and unconditional love.
I find it so much easier to accept my feelings when I consider that they are coming from the child inside me. I am instantly able to quit being hard on myself and switch to patience and compassion.
I will often take time out to listen in to the voice of my child. I will consciously connect with her and ask her how she is and if she needs anything from me.
Essentially what I am doing is asking myself how I am feeling.
I give myself a chance to be honest and admit if I am feeling a little low or flat or cross and I make a decision around how to manage that feeling.
What do I need? Do I need a hug? Do I need to talk to a friend? Do I need a nap or a day off work? Do I need to do some journalling or bash the stuffing out of a pillow?! You get the idea.
As a conscious woman who can trust herself, I know what I need to do to allow my feelings and give them room to be . And, so do you.
Why not grab your journal and commit to 10 things that you could do to love your Inner Child more. Here’s some ideas:
* dance in the rain;
* build a den or tree-house with your kids;
* give yourself time and space to FEEL;
* go to a fun park;
* ride a bike;
* explore nature;
* give yourself a hug (knowing that you are hugging the little girl inside you, giving her unconditional love)
You see, it’s not hard stuff. It’s simple and obvious. It simply takes commitment. If you desire to love yourself, then give your Inner Child some love and attention.
Enjoy!
Big love,
Katie xx
PS. If you desire to love and accept yourself but know you are unconsciously self-sabotaging any chance of happiness & success, please do jump on a complimentary call with me. I offer one hour consultations to discover if coaching with me is the right fit for you – CLICK HERE.
