In today’s Q&A I answered this question from Elle who is a member of Evolution Membership:
“I wondered if you could answer/talk about the idea of discipline and self care. I have lost motivation to do my morning routine and am going to bed late and I can’t seem to get back on track without the discipline of someone else. eg my boss. Thank you so much x”
I wonder if you can relate to this question? Is motivation an issue for you sometimes? I know it can be for me and I’ve got some excellent tips and tools to get you up and running again.
In this episode of ‘Cocoon & Cuppa with Katie’ we talk about giving yourself permission to feel good, redefining your values, connecting with your ‘why’, uncovering fear around living your best life, how your masculine energy can support your desire for self care, the power of an accountability buddy or group and of course a powerful prayer and affirmations to support you as you strengthen new self-love muscles.
You can watch it HERE.
Grab your journal – you’ll wanna make notes!
And here’s a quick check-list of the points I cover in the video:
1. Re-define what you value.
We are in such a habit of valuing external, tangible things that prove our worth or value. I invite you to consider valuing what is less tangible and more an inner experience – like time to yourself, your health, stillness, rest and feeling good. Consider whether self care is a high value for you. Perhaps it needs to be moved up your values list. There is a chapter in my book – ‘The Self Love Affair – A Woman’s Guide To A Daring & Mighty Life’ which will show you how to assess your values and create new ones that serve you.
Journalling questions:
- What will my life look like if I valued self care?
- What needs to shift or change to make self care a value?
2. Permission to feel good.
Explore whether you are resistant to feeling good most of the time. ‘The Big Leap’ by Gay Hendricks is a great book to read if you find it hard to allow yourself long periods of time feeling good. Addiction to struggle is rife in our patriarchal society. Perhaps it’s time to change this up!?
3. Re-connect with your ‘why’.
When you consider your desires for better self care, explore what you are moving away from and and what you are moving towards.
Journalling questions:
- What do I want to change in my life that I know self care will support?
- What do I want to create in my life that I know self care will support?
- What will my life look like if I do nothing about this? I.e. Don’t prioritise my self care.
- What will my life look like if I do something about this? I.e. Make self care a regular habit.
4. What are you scared of?
Committing to a new practice of self care might mean you step up somewhat! That could have you feel invited to expand in an area of your life and that might require something to change or for you to step out of your comfort zone in some way. This could bring up fear.
Journalling questions:
- What might have to change in my life? Am I scared of that?
- Am I willing to expand into a higher version of myself?
- Do I dare to step out of my comfort zone?
5. Make a plan!
Sometimes self care is blocked because we don’t know where to start. So write a list of what it might look like. For example:
Early Bedtime Routine:
- Phone off at 6pm
- Salty bath at 8pm with herbal tea and a book
- Diffuse essential oils in bedroom
- Restorative Yoga stretches
- Read in bed until drifting off….
Morning Ritual:
- Gentle alarm at 6.30am
- Mug of hot water with lemon
- Meditate for 15 minutes
- Journal for 10 minutes
- Make a green smoothie
- 30 min walk with favourite podcast OR 30 min yoga
Allow your masculine energy (the planner!) to support your feminine energy (desire & inspiration!).
6. Get an accountability buddy
Don’t do it alone – find someone who also wants to commit to a self care routine and support each-other. Join our Evolution Membership! Lots of buddies for this over there!
7. Reward system
How could you treat yourself when you’ve done the morning routine or gone to bed early!?
8. Powerful Prayer
I love to write my prayers in my journal. I know that the Universe is listening and so I open up to receive support.
For example, “Even though I don’t know where my motivation has gone, I am willing to be shown how to get it back”
9. Affirm your self worth
I am a big fan of fully acknowledging exactly where you are at and allowing you to love yourself regardless of where you want to be instead. Sometimes this level of self affirming can shift patterns really quickly without having to do anything else!
For example, “Even though I’m feeling unmotivated, I completely love and accept myself.” Or “Even though Im going to bed late, I completely love and accept myself.”
It’s ok not to be ‘perfect’ and get ‘everything right’!
10. Work your Affirmations!
Affirmations are so supportive when we are creating new behaviours. Write them on post-it notes and post them about the house so you can see them daily. Here’s some examples :
I love to take care of myself
I enjoy going to bed early
I feel so refreshed when I go to bed early
I love my morning routine
I have a morning routine that inspires me for the rest of the day
I love how time expands when I commit to my daily practices
The video goes into way more detail. You can watch it HERE.
Enjoy you renewed motivation!
Love, Katie xx
